Gil and Sandy Mercier offered a bolt-hole in France. Such wonderful friends we have, and France did look good to me. Rod and Claude Anderson offered Montreal and Florida, too. But, Elvon is not very mobile, so none of these is an option for him. We are making do pretty well in the Carmel Highlands, at the lovely home of Candy and Ernie Scalberg. I’ll be happy to get back to assisted living, though.
Ulla and John Brown made a more practical offer. They have a house in Palm Desert, to which they have retreated, as their Napa house hurned to the ground. As of yesterday, when I wrote this, we were hoping for Belmont Village in Albany, near Berkeley, where we would get all the services we have at the Lodge. It looks like we will be moving back to the Lodge around the middle of November.
What some of you may not understand is that Elvon is post-Polio and has Alzheimers’, which his doctor rates as “severe dementia”. His left leg is essentially useless, and he cannot always command the other one. He does not consistently understand that you have to push down on a walker. Sometimes he tries to get into it by pulling up. Other times, it’s fine. Friday night, I had to call the Fire Department at 1:00 am, to get him off the toilet. This is why we need assisted living. I am not enough of an assist, by myself.
Sunday morning, just now, I spoke to Robert May, Executive Director, Fountaingrove Lodge. The news is not great from that end. Robert is working at the Albany facility, Belmont Villages, and he doesn’t exactly have us moving in the day after tomorrow. Elvon is too much of a care. So, they would put him in their Memory Care building, if there is space, and charge appropriately. Some money would come back from Fountaingrove Lodge, but we will still be paying most of our rent here. It looks like the plan I started last week, including getting him into Cyprus Ridge Care Center, is the better one. I started that last Monday, but it got stalled, when our own doctor was unreachable to fax the workup. He was affected by the Napa fires, of course. I’ll get back on that first thing Monday morning. Robert is pretty sure that’s our solution.
So, that’s it for a beautiful Sunday morning in Carmel. I only got up at 10:45 am. My nights are weird. There’s always a break in the middle, where Elvon needs me for an hour or so, and it takes me another hour to read myself back down. I am letting myself sleep in, because I know how important it is to keep my strength up. So far, so good.
Bell Rudi said:
Sorry Helen that life is so burdened just by having a mate. That Elvon is lucky having you. What would happen if you were not able to do all the care? Wishing you a better life soon. Rudi.
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Susan Bogar said:
Helen … you bought two tickets to the NVJS concert 10/29 at Mondavi … with your current housing situation I’m not sure you will want to use them. I can get you a refund credit via PayPal … or give you a two ticket credit for a future show … or if you want to gift them to someone else, just give me the names for the door list.
If you can make it up here … more power to ya … but I thought I’d put it out there that we’ll accommodate your situation any way that works for you.
Helen Megan said:
You are a doll. Thank you so much. I don’t even have anyone to give them to at this point, as all of us FGL residents are in exile someplace, as are most of my Napa friends. Please just refund them to PayPal, and I’ll spend the money with you on another concert, when the ashes settle. Love, Helen
Janet Dedicik said:
Peter and I are so glad we were able to see you and Elvon last August in Montreal. You two are such troopers- hope you can get re-settled soon and get your lives back to a new normal. Sending good thoughts to you from Brome, Janet and Peter
Claude Lacasse said:
Chère Helen, que de courage et de force la situation demande. Nous sommes de tout coeur avec toi. Nous t’envoyons des câlins, des pensées positives et prions pour vous deux. XX
Peggy Scott John Kyriaco said:
Helen, you have been through so much in such a short period of time. We can not believe the things and the changes you have had to face. As always, your strength and courage are incredible. I hope you will find some time for yourself once Elvon is settled. Dementia is an insidious, demanding, 24 hour disease. It is impossible for one person to cope with it.
Thinking of you,