I haven’t written, because there has been no change in Elvon’s condition, and he is still at Sonoma Post-Acute Care, but not for much longer. No change is bad in this case. He is in a rehab facility and has shown zero interest in being rehabilitated. I don’t blame him. He has been through enough. But there they are, feeding him mush, so he won’t get pneumonia, making him sit in a chair for hours, and trying to torture him with physical therapy.
All he has ever wanted was peace and quiet, good food, a little wine and a TV set to keep him company. I can’t watch his unhappiness any longer. I am bring him home to Fountaingrove, to The Terraces, our Memory Care Unit. It’s beautiful, and serene. Hospice will bring in the HiLo bed he requires, and offer support to all of us. He’ll be allowed to enjoy whatever he wants to eat and drink. Susan and I will be spending the rest of today decorating, getting the TV, etc. He’ll come to his new home on Monday. I’ll be able to walk over and see him whenever I want, so more short visits are in order. I think he’ll like that.
Today, Susan and I are in the Interior Design business on his room. We’ll put in a little Christmas, too, and we’re expecting the whole family next weekend.
Helen Megan 
Hi Helen
I think you’ve really made the right decision; he’s better off at Terraces near you. You have been a real rock of support for him and I hope the girls agree.
It’s been a wild few months for you and I’m sure an ordeal too.
Let’s hope you can have a quiet family Xmas
Take care
Bev and Linda
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We were just wondering about you and how Elvon was doing… sounds like you have thought this through and are doing what is best for both of you. Hope you find some peace and joy this Christmas! All the best Andrea and Page Fairchild
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Sounds like the right thing to do, Helen! Good luck with it – glad Susan is helping – give her my love!!
Love,
Mariann
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Hi Helen: I am glad Elvon will be with you, or within walking distance, so you can see him whenever you want and as often as you want. I’m sure the place will look lovely when you are done, and very Christmas. Have fun with your family, and Happy Holidays.
Marlene, and Stan too!
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Nous pensons à vous Helen et j’espère qu’il réagira positivement à vos efforts toi et Susan.
Love
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Hi Helen – the ‘best thing’ is that you are Elvon are closer and where you want to be. Hopefully, all will be going in the right direction when Elvon settles down in his new facilities, and, perhaps the change of venue back to the care home will help Elvon refocus as to where he is. Also having you closer to help him with recognition to those who visit him and care will help bring him back to reality! Our prayers are with you, Helen, and do hope all is going well for you and your family! Keep the faith and may the Blessing of God protect you!
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I know these few months have been hard on everyone. Hopefully moving him back to familiar surroundings and rest will help him. We love you and will see you next weekend.
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Merry Christmas to you both!
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Dear Helen,
Thank you so much for keeping us posted, Helen. Weâre both very relieved to know that Elvon will be coming back âhomeâ, and that heâll be so close by, both for your sake and for his.
Making someone whoâs ill as comfortable as possible is just so right!!
Keep your chin up,
Love,
Marge and Chris
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Dear Helen,
So happy to hear that life is finally settling down for you after such a chaotic time escaping the fires and dealing with Elvon’s limitations . How good that you now have him back at the Terraces.
Dominique and I are thinking of you and want to wish you both all the best for the coming year.
love, Debbie
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Thanks for the update, happy that he’ll soon be in an environment that he will feel more tranquil. Wishing you strength and good health through all that you are dealing with.
Pace yourself dear Helen. Jenn
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